Do you ever find yourself listening to your children and your heart breaks a little bit for them, when you hear the lack of loyalty that some children have for their friends? For example, when they have been excluded from online games, parties, after school stuff, gatherings etc but the child who is loyal would never have done that to them. This is often made worse by the pack mentality and the need for children to act against another child, to isolate and to cause pain. I do believe that they have a conscience, not a fully developed one, but I don’t subscribe to the “they are just being children” excuses, and we all know that children can be very kind. Plus we don’t say, ” look at that thief, he’s just being a thief, doing what thieves do!”
Wouldn’t we love to see, people defending each other more, sticking up for the under dog, standing by a friend, giving someone else’s cast away a place to come to? After all, if you can’t stand up for a friend then what is the friendship based on?
I believe that we should teach our children to keep the friendship faith, but not to put that friend first anymore, certainly not to put that friend on a pedestal. If they could give their friend a chance by reminding them how loyal they have been is always a good lesson for all concerned, but often children and in fact adults take umbrage to advise like this, which is a shame as we could all do so much more for each other, if we really listened and if we worked to care more.
If you are ever in this position as a friend who is let down, how much would you love a friend to stand for you…